Are people with anxiety and depression weak? Hopeless? Helpless? Hypochondriacs? Depression and anxiety are, in majority of cases, emotional signals that your psychological health is not ideal and that your psychosocial or relational needs are not met. As deeply relational beings, humans have need for good relational value in areas of family, friendship, romantic partners, group/occupational/social identity and of utmost importance relationship with themselves and the extent to which they feel proud and accepting of themselves (or the reverse) 7 . Let us take an example, if you break an arm and go to the emergency room they don’t say you have a pain-in-my-arm disorder. The pain is the signal of the problem – a broken arm. Similarly, anxiety and depression are signals of psychosocial needs and threats. They should not be considered alien feelings that need to be eliminated or fixed, any more than we would treat pain from a broken arm, coldness and hunger with pills that takes a...